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of course it was a selfish act. i can't think of anyone other than terry who wanted this to happen. that said, he's allowed to be selfish. after all, an angry reaction to it is selfish in its own right: we're upset because we're not getting what we want.

shine on you crazy diamond..

I'm mad at Terry because after climbing all day with Missy, I had to tell her that her roommate had passed.

I'm mad because Sunday night, I had to stay with my friend so she wouldn't be alone in her house that she shared with him.

I'm mad because as we pulled into the driveway Sunday night after midnight, his Westie was still there.

I'm mad because I know that Terry has left Missy and Jacob with so much guilt.

I'm sad because Terry was an amazing person whom I loved along with so many others.

I'm sad because so many people wanted him to be happy and so many times we tried to help.

But most of all I'm sad because Terry's not here anymore:
No more private jokes, no more knowing smiles, no more crazy talks, no more laughs, no more book reviews, no more climbs, no more coffee, no more late nights, no more great friend.


"Birth and death were easy. It was life that was hard." -Jitterbug Perfume, Tom Robbins...still sitting on his desk Monday morning.

Farewell.

Mary Bosserman

There is sadness deep in my heart. Terry...thanks for everything you were & everything you did...I will miss you.

Deanna

Paul3eb wrote:

of course it was a selfish act. i can't think of anyone other than terry who wanted this to happen. that said, he's allowed to be selfish. after all, an angry reaction to it is selfish in its own right: we're upset because we're not getting what we want.

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I agree, Paul. You can criticize the way a person lives their life, but I think that when somebody is ready to check out, they deserve enough respect to let them go, like it or not.

I can think of thousands of people who the world would have been better off if they had killed themselves.

ZSpider

Yet another sad time for the Red ...what a huge loss to the community. Can't say I shared a rope with Terry but I know him well and will miss his bigger than life attitude. I lost an uncle to suicide and from my experience there is no point on wondering why, what could we have done, why didn't we see it coming but to celebrate what they did for us as a friend, share the stories of good times and remember the laughter...nothing more, nothing less.

piton1 wrote:

...there is no point on wondering why, what could we have done, why didn't we see it coming...

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Well said, piton1.

ZSpider

Terry's death is a tragic loss to this community. I will miss Terry warts and all regardless of how the end occured. Sorrow is for the living, not the dead. The dead are fine. My heart and energy go out to Terry's mother, his wife, Dr. Bob, Jacob, Team Suck and anyone else who lost a friend, soul mate or antagonist.

In life, we need a dissenter. Terry was at times my greatest critic and my greatest supporter. I felt honored to have him as a friend. If nothing else, Terry knew that I wasn't one of those "literal" people.

depression is a serious and desparate illness. sometimes it is so bad that that simple things seem impossibly difficult to resolve and life seems hopless. being cordial and happy on the outside doesnt mean that the depressed aren't suffering greatly on the inside. withdrawl and lonliess are comfortable - and dangerous symptoms. as with any disease, there is no one to blame and probably nothing anyone could have done casually would have prevented this horrible loss of life, this disease works from the inside and can only be relived from there too. though feelings of anger are natural for those left behind - please realize that depression is a disease just as any other illness - praying that terry is in a restful and happy place and thinking well of him when you climb one his his routes he left as a legacy for us, is a nice way to honor him- until that time when we will all rope up again together at that beautiful crag where the catches are always soft, the days are eternity and happiness is perpetual.

I didn't know Terry very well. I liked him from the times that I met him. Suicide is always tragic, and the more that you think about it, the more tragic it seems. I hope that Terry is happier where he is now than he was the moment before he got there.

Rest in peace; you've left us a lot to remember you by.

I met him at Pocket Wall, easily, I found out Terry was one of the big dudes. There, he taught me a little about anchors which goes a long ways.

Later I saw him replacing at Torrent Falls, he was real, a hard worker, and someone we needed while we had him.


...go Team suck go...