why does marriage have to suck so bad?

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Kiribell
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Post by Kiribell »

Ohhh so that's where I heard that! Huh? I wonder why I thought that was something my mom said?? :?

BTW, has there ever been a female serial killer?
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kiribell wrote:
BTW, has there ever been a female serial killer?
According to a detective I know, yes, but not as common as males.
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Climber/non-climber marriages only work if the non-climbing spouse has their own passion(s) in life. If their only passion is you then the marriage is doomed. Of course, I think people who aren't passionate about more than one thing are one-dimensional and boring, but that's just me. Sort of like the rule of never marrying someone who has no scars.
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dipsi wrote:kiribell wrote:
BTW, has there ever been a female serial killer?
According to a detective I know, yes, but not as common as males.
There were two here in LExington during the 70s. Pretty scary chicas. Fortunately, they didn't harm women. Unusual for a serial killer I know.
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KD wrote:huggy i'm gonna check that book out. thanks. yas i liked what the 'ol song used to say about the bible - basic instructions before leaving earth.

here's my dilemma de jur - this morinig i wake up an' she all donna reed. i got a 2 pot hangover and she's all rosey. jus dont know where to stand or where to hide these days.
I'm not married. Would your wife consider couples counseling? It's helped friends of mine get over rough spots.

In my mind, marriage means you're family. Seems like you are willing to try anything to hold your family together. Good luck KD. I wish you well.
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Post by Paul3eb »

a few words from the lieutenant:
Lt. Col. Frank Slade wrote:Women! What can you say? Who made 'em? God must have been a fuckin' genius. The hair... They say the hair is everything, you know. Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls... just wanted to go to sleep forever? Or lips... and when they touched, yours were like... that first swallow of wine... after you just crossed the desert. Tits. Hoo-hah! Big ones, little ones, nipples staring right out at ya, like secret searchlights. Mmm. Legs. I don't care if they're Greek columns... or secondhand Steinways. What's between 'em... passport to heaven. I need a drink. Yes, Mr Sims, there's only two syllables in this whole wide world worth hearing: pussy. Hah! Are you listenin' to me, son? I'm givin' ya pearls here.
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Post by overhung »

What is marriage anyway? How is it different than a relationship? Do people feel more pressure to stay in marriages or relationships? Who came up with the concept of marriage anyway (men or women)? What, emotionally, do you get from marriage that you can't get from a relationship? It's my feeling that relationships are superior to marriage, because people tend to stay in relationships more because they want to, instead of because they should. Marriage is a wierd thing.

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Post by kato »

A relationship can be in all ways identical to a marriage except legally (at this time). However, a "realtionship" is usually based on feelings and couples often part when it no longer feels right. A marriage is a commitment to stay together even when the going gets rough, and it's usually a public commitment, i.e. witnessed by family/friends/officials, to make it binding. It was invented by the wiser and more experienced to save the younger from some heartache. I can tell you from experience and from watching close friends, feelings are a poor way to navigate a serious relationship. They can change just because you get indigestion. Bad feelings pass and good feelings return, esp. if you are committed to working it out. When you leave yourself other options, it's much easier to give up. Although I've seen a couple doomed relationships where there is abuse or something equally intractable, in most cases, relationships get better the longer you keep them, even if it's rocky in spots.
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Post by overhung »

Alright, then who is the "wiser" that saves the younger from heartache? Who started this mess? Is it a biological urge? Is it the result of a domineering patricarchal society to control women? If half end in divorce what's the use of marriage? Is it just a legal contract? I won't lie, I've only met a few men who are absolutely, wonderfully happy about their marriage. I KNOW THEY'RE OUT THERE SO DON'T SLAM ME.
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Post by Lateralus »

back on track,

i heard the Coalition was doing marriage counseling in the Southern Region, prerequisites are for the couple to climb a few .11c first like Ro Sham bo and Stay the Hand
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