why does marriage have to suck so bad?

Post by **rockclimbingdude** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 3:41 pm

Yeah his needs her needs is a good book. But you have to use it and pay attention to her needs to..or get the book " five languages of love"

Post by **longlegsrule** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 4:17 pm

why do you need a book to tell you how to love?

why can't you just talk to them...it's called communication...

Post by **alien2** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 4:46 pm

Maybe she thinks you are banging some hot climber chick?

Post by **Yasmeen** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 5:25 pm

longlegsrule wrote:why do you need a book to tell you how to love?

Wait... don't some people see the Bible as a book that tells you how to love?

I think Huggy was saying that the book points out pitfalls and how to avoid them... why not learn from the mistakes of others? People obviously look for advice in relationships and love-- it's our nature. Why not put it into book form and reach the masses?

Post by KD » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:15 pm

huggy i'm gonna check that book out. thanks. yas i liked what the 'ol song used to say about the bible - basic instructions before leaving earth.

here's my dilemma de jur - this morinig i wake up an' she all donna reed. i got a 2 pot hangover and she's all rosey. jus dont know where to stand or where to hide these days.

Post by **Lateralus** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:20 pm

longlegsrule wrote:why do you need a book to tell you how to love?

why can't you just talk to them...it's called communication...

you obviously haven't been married, it ain't that easy.

I feel for you dude, get help in whatever form, it's ok to admit that you don't know how to make things work. We often have poor models for this growing up and we don't innately know how to have happy marriages. Try something different as the same broken stuff repeated is just insanity. There are always three perspectives to any relationship, yours, hers & the truth, the last one impossible to know of course.

Post by **Kiribell** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:24 pm

The KD I have met is strong enough to work through the problem with the best solution..I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit towards how much you have kept it together to date dude!

Post by KD » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:28 pm

[quote="Lateralus] There are always three perspectives to any relationship, yours, hers & the truth, the last one impossible to know of course.[/quote] I'm with ya on that for sure - very heavy.

Post by **Huggybone** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:49 pm

Why use a book?

Well, if 50% of marriges today end in divorce, we need all the help we can get!
I reccommend that book to people who are doing really well in their marriages as well.

Post by **Meadows** » Wed Apr 06, 2005 6:59 pm

Dr. Phil can help find that truth in the middle.

However, the truth begins with turning the finger pointed outward back to the person pointing it (both parties). If you can't do that, reconciliation is next to impossible. Swallowing pride is so difficult.

Good luck.