Anger managment
writing a VERY NASTY LETTER to the person you're mad at can work. tell them exactly how you feel in no uncertain terms. very cathartic.
just don't send it. the sending is the part that can cause future problems and/or loss of employment!
just don't send it. the sending is the part that can cause future problems and/or loss of employment!
"Unthinkably good things can happen, even late in the game." ~ Under the Tuscan Sun
Sometimes it is very hard to distinguish the intent of a coworker. Where I work there is a guy who is so socially awkward he did not even know what a high five was. He does not know how to interact with people and as a result most people think he is a dick but the truth is he actually believes he is helping. It always helps though to think before you react to decide weather he is being weasely or not.
How you compare may not be as important as to whom you are compared
saing "motherfuckers" over and over again usualluy helps me - i breathe deeply and let out "motherfuckers, motherfuckers, MOTHERFUCKIN FUCKITY FUCKIN MOTHERFUCKERS!!!!" and i smash a bunch of shit ... it keeps these minor disturbances of life in thier perspective ...fuckin motherfuckin disturbances.
I was gonna suggest what Josephine suggested. Write out exactly what you'd say to the person if there were no consequences to what you want to say, and keep the letter all to yourself. It's therapeutic at the time, and later on, you'll read it and probably be very, very thankful you didn't share it with the person.
"I snatched defeat from the jaws of victory." --Paul
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I second that.. And it really is quite apropos at this point in my life.. At the risk of sounding dramatic, I am finding myself in a space where I am absolutely consumed w/ hatred towards my neighbors. It's so bad, that when I am driving home from work, I get myself all worked up, thinking about all the ways I can kick these fat f-ing hillbillies asses... I recognize how unproductive these feelings are and that they truly are winning when I let them mentally get the best of me... I suffer, my family suffers, and ultimately, it doesn't hurt them one bit! However, the root cause of this hatred has to do w/ my little girl. I have never had to deal w/ the feelings that come from someone or something else hurting something you love so dearly.. That being said, these neighbors got a pit bull and a rottie.. Normally, under the right circumstances, dog bread means very little.. It is the owners that make a good dog or bad.. well, these dogs definitely fall into the latter category. Long story short, my little girl was attacked by one of their dogs 2 days ago.. My little girl is 5. She was knocked to the ground and quite literally dragged by the back of her head/hair across the yard. My wife and I watched the entire thing happen from our kitchen window and it was absolutely, the most terrifying experience I have ever endured. The entire attack lasted approx. 20-30 seconds till I could run out to get her (she was in a field behind my house.) To make things worse, the neighbors adamantly defended their dogs actions, saying they didn't see it and the dog was probably playing!!Lateralus wrote:awesome post jeff!
How do I possibly get over this? Besides killing their dog and choking them out, (which truth be told, I probably would never do?) I am truly hard pressed to find a way to relieve my feelings of hate.. What bothers me the most is I recognize how detrimental these feelings are to me and my family and what a useless emotion hate is.
The path to our destination is not always a straight one. We go down the wrong road, we get lost, we turn back. Maybe it doesn't matter which road we embark on. Maybe what matters is that we embark.